'They pulled the corporate version of negging on me': Worker shamed by current employer for getting a new job after being denied a raise

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    Product - "Got subtly shamed for leaving for more money."
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    Font - Posted by u/Fickle_Lab_4182 11 hours ago Got subtly shamed for leaving for more money Was offered a 5% raise back in January which brought up my annual salary from 32k EUR to 33.5k EUR (I'm in Ireland and inflation is crazy here to the point where I had to start dipping into my savings to make ends meet at times). At a performance review in June I tried opening up the conversation for an adjustment for inflation and was brushed off with a, "We only do salary reviews once a year unless an
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    Font - Found another job offer that would pay me 38.5k and so handed in my notice. My manager's exact words were, "I'm not personally motivated by money," when I said I was struggling on the current salary. My director was curious to find out what the other place was offering me, and when I told him, he said, "5k? Not a massive difference then." No counteroffer either, mind you. They're both so far removed from the realities of what the junior staff have to live on, or they pulled the corporate
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    Font - 1stEmperror 10 hr. ago They'll spend a lot more than 5K replacing you. 8.3k Reply Share 10 hr. ago Fickle_Lab_4182 OP God I would really hope so. 4 2.9k Reply Share
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    Font - Southern-Beautiful-3 10 hr. ago In the US, it's usually around ½ to ½ of the salary for the position. The breakdown is the cost of recruitment, training, and getting up to speed. There's also drag on other employees and burnout during the time it takes to replace the employee. This could result in additional employees leaving for greener pastures. Also, the possibility exists that word could spread among the remaining employees that salaries are better on the outside. This has the potenti
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    Font - Life-Composter. 10 hr. ago If it's not massive tell them to pony it up out of their pay, after all it's not much. Reply Share 1.2k State_of_Flux_88 - 10 hr. ago Especially if they claim they are not personally motivated by money. Manager: I'm not personally motivated by money OP: Oh good, in that case I presume you would be willing to take a pay cut, since you aren't motivated by the money and will be here anyway. It would leave more in the salary pot for junior staff who are currently st
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    Font - adjavang 10 hr. ago "5k? Not a massive difference then." Next time you hear that from you can reply "I know, right? Sure you could have kept me for that had ye not been too tight!" That cuts both ways like. Inflation is absolutely dire and everyone is hiring in Ireland, employers are finding themselves on thin ice very quickly. Also worth noting, never take a counter offer. By the time that it's gotten bad enough that you're looking elsewhere, the relationship has soured enough that it's
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    Font - N 19 MountainJaded3068 10 hr. ago "I'm not personally motivated by money" Imao I'm sure they donate their salary to a local charity than. What, they don't? Weird. 4 1.8k Reply Share Fickle_Lab_4182 OP 10 hr. ago Things only people not worried about money constantly have the luxury to say 850 Reply Share
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    Font - Still_Difference5461 10 hr. ago 5k is 400 extra a month, that's noticeable 475 Reply Share Fickle_Lab_4182 OP It absolutely is 146 10 hr. ago Reply Share
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    Font - raleel 9 hr. ago The fact that 5k a year isn't a lot says a lot more about him than you. As a side note, job hopping for raises is absolutely a thing here in the states. Don't feel shame for this. As a person who manages teams, i see what it is like and do not fault people leaving for better wages+benefits. I've had people tell me they were leaving for nearly double the wage, and I went back to HR and told them I couldn't retain talent because they were lowballing. May your next job be at
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    Font - jorgegom87 10 hr. ago They are not personally motivated by money MY ASS. They are making a ton more than you, that's why they are not motivated by money... 5K can make a big leap on someone who is strugling. I'm from Spain and I've been on Ireland and prices there are crazy. Reply Share 191 10 hr. ago These wankers already have given themselves double promotions and raises over the last year. Reply Share Fickle_Lab_4182 OP 74 jorgegom87 10 hr. ago Of course they did, they have "performed
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    Font - uptherockies 10 hr. ago Congrats, I did the exact same thing in Ireland a month ago, 37.5K to 52K with health insurance fully paid and way better pension. A bit of confusion from upper management (who can't remember what struggling feels like) to outright congratulations from my direct manager. 110 Reply Share Fickle_Lab_4182 OP 10 hr. ago Congrats! Moving upwards and onwards 41 Reply Share
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    Font - Thiccaca 10 hr. ago . "Yes, well I am motivated by hunger and having a place to live. Sorry we all aren't rich twats like you are." 76 Reply Share
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    Font - Interaction No9110 10 hr. ago Welcome to corporate gaslighting to try and mind f you into staying. So they don't have to spend the money to replace you and the higher salary people will demand. I would be homeless on your salary. 49 Reply Share Fickle_Lab_4182 OP 10 hr. ago Oh I'm bordering on homeless alright. Everywhere is unaffordable and housing is generally fucked in Ireland with no supply. If my landlord decides to kick me out tomorrow I'm well and truly fucked as there's no where I

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